Question of The Week: Who works harder on the first sexual encounter? The man or woman?
Beauty: Kendra Cunningham
Although it’s nice to think that the first time two people have sex there is a natural ease to the whole thing, a sense of losing yourself to the experience, I know that is not always the case. Sometimes there is not a lot of physical chemistry or one person just doesn’t know what the hell they’re doing or the lights are on or something, whatever it is you end up
having to try to make it good.
Who works harder in this situation? The hornier of the two. The hornier person is always more committed to making it an enjoyable and memorable experience, for purely selfish reasons, to fulfill their needs, and secure repeat business.
Going beyond the “the first time together” experience, who works harder? It’s a tough call. Guys will say they work harder all the time. First time, second time, twentieth time- guys will always say they are insecure about pleasing a woman. Bullshit! They just say that so girls will accept their lazy sexual ways. Maybe if he’s lazy, the girl will throw on some sexy lingerie and try to entice him into being the horny bastard they fantasize about. Maybe. Or maybe they’ll offer to participate in kinky things to reclaim his interest. Maybe. Or maybe they’ll try porn talk to arouse him audibly. Maybe. I heard all this second hand, of course. Girls get lazy too. Or so I’m told. I’m not blessed with a consistent sex life so when I get a shot I tend to over-participate. My behavior might even be construed as competitive. Aggressive. Disarming. Regardless of the description, I still have a 100% callback ratio. I’m not bragging.
Well maybe just a little.
Bottom line, there are two types of people, people who like to do it and people who don’t really care if they ever touch another naked body for the rest of their lives. Your either lascivious (inclined to lustfulness–one of my favorite words) or you’re not. The more sexual person will always work harder because they think everyone is as horny as them and when they come in contact with someone who would rather write a poem to express their desire, it makes them crazy and insecure and psychotically driven to make the sexually distant person participate full throttle. A relationship can go on for years based on this alone. Or so I hear.
Happy New Year!
Thanks for listening!
Kisses-
Kendra
Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super
comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her
sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.
http://www.kendracunningham.com
http://www.blondelogicblog.com
The Beast: John Powers
…you’re trying too hard.
I’m already hard, you can stop trying so hard now; just relax and enjoy it a bit. That’s just the tip; just wait till it’s really in. You can hardly feel a thing; soon you will start to spin. Turn around and feel this thing. No lying… I’m not even trying.
Flip you upside-down; now you know how it feels when you’re on it. Feels like flying, don’t it? Close your eyes and enjoy it; moan and foam till you squeeze it. Open wide and receive it deeply. 
I’m hardly trying; this is fun. I’ve just begun, you’re almost done. Take out a piece, I’m playing a game like Jenga; giving you tips like Beauty and the Beast, I’m envisioning Kendra. All the while you can see my smile; barely breaking a sweat, but you’re still quite…
Into it, feeling quite nice now. Take a break and have a glass with ice, and some water to recover. Next time put you’re ass in it, or I’ll wipe your hair in it. Shoot you in the eye, by surprise. My aim is great, I told you a lie. I meant to do it. You’re eyes all red. I lay back in bed. When I wake up we can do it again.
You’re addicted like opium; smoke me like a pipe. Next time I’ll try harder, to keep you up all night. Going to sleep now? Think again. There’s still time before the sun rises; let’s get to it.
Who tries harder the first time?
You do… this comes easy for me.
Love,
John
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Okay..okay..wow! John, didn’t know you were so poetic…hmmmmmm…. !!! lol..and love the photos..they tell a story too! lol….. Fun blog today!! thanks!! lol…good week to all…
Stream of consciousness rocks.
Thanks for reading (again), Chris.
You may be our most loyal reader.
…but you didn’t say which you agree with! : )
I think men really have something to prove,
but women have an obligation to blow one’s mind.
It’s a tough debate… but I think men try harder.
(and typically do most of the work…)
AWESOME Blog.
John…may I quote….”It’s all about balance…it’s not about 50/50…I think each person has to put in %100…” (John Powers, re: relationships… The Comedy Point, Show of November 23, 2010)….and I’m thinking that the first time each person is (hopefully) trying as hard as they can….. And I think personally that women are, in most situations, always concerned about how they made the man feel… Not sure that the “man” does most of the work…that’s a separate conversation altogether… So…see, I do have an opinion I just had to gather my thoughts after your poetic repose… Happy New Year!!!!
Very nice, Chris. I’m flattered that you remembered that I said that.
Unfortunately, if my math was right, that would mean there would be a total of 200%,
and that’s simply not possible. The highest cumulative percentage you can have is 100.
You’re probably right though. Depending on the level of interest, each party is
probably giving it all that they can in hopes of leaving a good representation of themselves.
Your third point is way off. You may be a caring and concerned person,
but many women out there are not always concerned about how they make their man feel.
Sometimes you folks can be downright mean and uncaring… you may be an exception…
… and maybe it’s just been my experience,
but only 2 out of 20 (or so) women have the
ability (and motivation) to take control and
do the majority of the work during a session.
: )
Happy New Year to you too.
Good Evening John…I may just be the exception in always thinking about how the other person is feeling or it may just be my insecurities that’s the motivation..(a bit of both I think…)…and you poor guy…working so hard!!! Sorry about that! lol..
PS..I read, I listen and I appreciate all of you here at The Comedy Point..great entertainment with clear evidence of intergrity…thanks…