How Can I Make it up to Her and Get Her Back?

Question of The Week

I came across the Beauty and The Beast blog today when a friend of mine posted it on their Facebook account. I wasn’t sure if the email address: Breedsmart@johnjpowers.com worked or not!

Please forward this to Kendra and John

Dear Kendra and John,

How can I make it up to her and get her back?
Sincerely,
One Stupid Mother F’er

The Beast: John Powers
That’s a stupid reason to break up with someone.

You are totally in the right here, my friend. She is a fool for breaking up your relationship over something so trivial. The next time you talk to her, you can quote me on that. Sorry, lady… but you are fortunate enough to find a man who likes you enough to deal with two children you bring with you from a failed marriage… don’t throw him away over a missing gift. Here’s a crazy idea… talk to him about it. “Hey, my kids made me these macaroni picture frames, it upsets me that you didn’t at least get me a card.”

Your question to us was: How do I make it up to her and get her back? My question to you is: Why do you want to make it up to her and get her back? You’ve only been together for half a year. Not knowing how old you guys are, or how likely you are to meet someone else, I gotta say it seems like you can do better. Find someone who doesn’t have kids… then you won’t have to worry about getting them anything for Mothers’ Day. Get out there and meet someone who doesn’t jump out of relationships anytime expectations are not met. If she’s willing to break up with you over something like this… imagine if something serious happened.

It’s not hard to figure out why her marriage failed.

What did you get her for Christmas? This is the reason you can’t start with gold and diamonds. You buy a chick one really expensive gift at the beginning of a relationship, and from then on she expects something shiny at every holiday on the calendar. It’s your own fault, man. Don’t spoil your chicks. Lesson learned. Walk away with your head high, and don’t make the same mistake next time.

Really though, I need more info. You haven’t been together long, but you really want her back… are you in love with her? You are willing to overlook her baggage (kids…) and the fact that she breaks up with people for the smallest reasons… are you a desperate man? Are you ugly or overweight? I mean no offense… just trying to figure it out. From the small description of the situation you included, it seems to me that she has the upper hand. She must either be the hottest MILF in town, or you just can’t do Eddie Vedder… I mean… any better.

Is she in love with you? Does she treat you right?
How is your communication? Do you argue a lot? Have you broken up before? Are you on and off? Are either of you seeing other people? Was this simply a reason for her to get out? (It wasn’t a good reason… but was she just looking to get out?!) Is your day-to-day interaction pleasant? Do you have a history of not buying presents? What did you get her for her birthday? How involved have you gotten in these six months you’ve been together? Are you living together? Do her kids look at you as their new Father?

This is a complicated situation.
It’s easy to joke about, but I’d love to give you a real answer and some honest guidance. Please write back and answer my questions. At that point I can give you a more accurate response. If you don’t want the information to be made public, we respect that. (even though it’s much more fun when other people can read it and laugh at your misfortunes!)

… and yes… all of the email addresses at the bottom of my posts work. Try them.

- John

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John Powers is a 28-year-old, heterosexual, single male. He’s an Emmy Award-winning Graphic Designer for TV by day, and Standup Comedian by night. He enjoys playing and listening to rock music, driving around with the top down on his convertible, and sipping on deep red wine near the beach…

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

Birthday Guffaw

How to get her back?

Grovel. Apologize. Admit you were wrong based on pure stupidity. Too many people are afraid to be honest and indefensible. Do it. It’s the only way to get to know someone. It sucks to admit to shortcomings especially to someone you want to impress. And its even worse when that person could potentially use this brash confession to kick you when you’re down.

Do it anyway. She’ll probably agree and send you on your way. Wait a week and repeat. Use different verbiage, of course. Always try a third time. There are two types of women, one will start to bat her eyelashes and think your suffering is endearing right around the third attempt at reconciliation. The other has no tolerance for rookie mistakes like this one and will threaten bodily harm your third time around. Believe her. Walk away – unlaid and unscathed.

If your lucky enough to have found a woman that has the patience to train you on the simplest of human courtesies, make sure to tell her how you plan on improving yourself and your treatment of her. Even an obvious solution can sound like a genius epiphany if that’s how you spin it. Go out of your way to treat her special and show her how much you care.
Guys don’t learn courting strategies in this day and age. Find a way to make a woman feel wanted, valued and appreciated, and you can get away with a moronic episode now and again. Especially if you look good doing it.

Give this a read

http://www.ehow.com/how_4451449_treat-woman-like-queen.html

Kisses
Kendra

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