Fan Mail Question: At what point should a person lower their standards, rather than grow old alone?
Beauty: Kendra Cunningham
Nobody should ever settle. No matter what age. Especially after you’ve held out this long. You obviously have strong convictions about what you want, to accept less in the face of complete dissatisfaction, would be worse at this age than at 24. At least at 24 you wouldn’t have known any better.
Consciously settling is like saying “You know what, instead of embracing my glimmer of hope for self actualization which is accompanied with feeling downtrodden and disillusioned, I think I’d rather be frustrated, unfulfilled, and spirit broken in the presence of another malcontent, yeah that’s what I want.”
I’m not saying don’t compromise. Relationship compromise is integral at any age. But who wants to talk about forfeiting personal wants and preferences in order to get somebody to like you more? Not me. Let’s carry on.
I could be the wrong person to ask, I have a personal library on codependency, healthy relationships, and how to get what you want out of love and life and I still pray to God for a cheap make out session every time I leave the house. Honestly, I’m hoping you’re in a “I just don’t give a shit anymore phase” I’ve been trying to get into one of those phases. Those are the best. If this is the case, sell out to the highest bidder with the funnest lifestyle and start with the afternoon cocktails.
A life of luxury with an entertaining companion?
Things could be worse.
Thanks for listening!
Kisses-
Kendra
Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.
The Beast: John Powers
Do you want to have kids? Are you alright with using a turkey baster and paying for a cup of cream? Is your current companion lacking something vital that makes you not willing to “settle” for them? These are tough questions, but you need to be honest with yourself and decide what you want out of life. I cannot answer these questions for you… I can simply pose them, and hope that you make the best decision for you.
My advice to the single ladies nearing the “I’m gonna risk breast cancer and birth defects if I have a kid soon” age is… just do it. Put on a low-cut dress, head to your local pub or bowling alley… and grab someone. If you have a list of 10 essential qualities you want in a man, cut the list in half and take another look around. You might be a 7 who thinks you’re a 9… and there’s a 6 out there who would be thrilled to squeeze whatever gravity hasn’t already grabbed from your once perky little breasts.
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Guess that depends on your standards. Maybe they are a bit lofty. Here’s a little bit of advice I give the ladies it’s called the reverse limbo (get your mind out of the gutter Kendra, not THAT reverse limbo). Set the bar as low as possible and then keep raising it until you find your sweet spot. You might be holding your breath waiting for a fella who looks like a buffed out Jude Law with an interesting career helping those in need. A gentle lover, who wants kids, loves animals, and sculpts in his spare time. Good luck.
Using reverse limbo you start at the bottom and work your way up. Homeless man stinking of piss and shit..Nope. Yankee fan…of course not. Douchebaggy lawyer types you find at Brazen Head on a Thursday night…right to the reject pile. Just keep raising that bar until BAM there’s the guy you’ve been looking for all along. A dude who resembles Tony Danza after he went through a windshield. A kind soul who only uses heroin on special occasions, and never with a needle. A humble man who even though he posseses a huge imposing cock with thick veins running up it’s length like ivy at Wrigley Field,never brags about it when your friends are around. An everyman who is a diligent job hunter, and would never hit a lady with a closed hand.