Where Do You Meet Prospective Dates?

Beauty and The Beast: A weekly relationship advice column with Kendra Cunningham and John Powers

Fan Mail Question of The Week: Where Do You Meet Prospective Dates?

The Beast: John Powers

It’s amazing there are so many people in the world, yet we don’t know where to find potential mates.  According to my Facebook ad campaign there are 76,840 single women between the ages of 21-40 interested in men in New York City.
… but where are they?!

According to Shanté Cosme there are 10 different places (Click here for her article on the subject) to find attractive women, but I think we can eliminate a few of her categories (most of the guys I know won’t go to a department store to pick up chicks). My list is simple. Here’s why…

Dance Clubs/Discothèques

Many women like to get all fancied up and go for a night on the town with their besties (close female friends).  The music at these places is loud and typically features a persistent beat that is supposed to simulate the rhythm of sexual intercourse.  Girls that frequent these joints wear heels and skirts and have competitions over who can get the most drinks bought for them.  This is often a crowded and obnoxious environment, and although I have the moves like Jagger, I’m not big on designer drugs or hairspray… so the disco is not for me.

Lounges/Speakeasies

These are typically more upscale and harder to find.  They feature comfortable furniture, but often not enough of it.  The drinks are fancy, and the attire is professional casual.  You can meet a trendy FIT girl at one of these, but her martinis might cost 2 or 3-times as much as your beer.  I don’t mind these places because they are usually not too crowded …and I’ll gladly pay for the personal space.  The music is less offensive than the disco, but still annoying.

Bars/Pubs

If you’re looking for a cool chick in jeans that smokes… you’ve found the right place.  A nice Irish Pub (with Powers Whiskey) is a lot like Planet Fitness – a “no judgment zone” (although Planet Fitness wouldn’t let me in with jeans and sandals, so I cancelled my membership… ) and you can dress down and put on some rock music on the jukebox.  These joints are sometimes sticky but welcoming, and shots always make for bad decisions… just be careful… a girl that frequents a bar might be able to drink you under the table.

Karaoke/Trivia

A friendly compromise.  Karaoke bars are usually filled with open-minded fun-seekers.  I find it to be a great place to have a few laughs and a few brews.  The music is the same as the bar, but it’s sung by amateurs.  They think they sound like Adele but they really sound like William Hung (pull the mic away when you sing louder).  At trivia night you can compare your useless knowledge with theirs, which makes for a great conversation starter.  These are people with talents that are not too self-conscious to get on a stage or a mic… I like that.

Online

The last resort is online.  We’ve already discussed this in previous blogs (as seen here) but it should at least be mentioned that a lot of people are staying in with their pets, a movie, and a bottle of wine whilst perusing the internet for love.  Some people have found success with this method, but it seems too formal to me, and I’d rather let serendipity determine if we meet… not the matches from OkCupid that make me quiver.

…and there’s always the Power Hour comedy show at EastVille (2/25, 3/24 & 4/21) which features the most attractive comics in the business (…and they’re great in bed from what I’m told, but there’s only one way to find out!)

So there you have it… now get out there.

(… or stay in with your chiwawadoodle and bottle of merlot watching Bridesmaids)

Any questions?
E-male: FindMeAtKaraoke@JohnJPowers.com

- John

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

I wish I knew. I still have a 24 year old mentality which is either the root of my problems or the foundation of my moderately healthy mental health. If I was hoping to meet someone I would go out drinking, ask friends to set me up, or develop an unhealthy crush on a friend who I subconsciously know is emotionally dead which makes him a perfect canvas for me to project on.

Listen, I don’t date. I went on that one date last year where I ate pork belly and avoided a kiss good night. That’s not a great date. Where do you go to meet “ that was a great date” people? Vacation? In another country where everything seems so much more interesting and light hearted? Probably. I’ve never been on vacation talking to a guy thinking “I wonder if he’s capable of having a relationship” I’m too busy thinking “is this gonna be the time I go on vacation AND have sex?”. It never happens. I went to the Dominican Republic with an ex and he ate so much at the all inclusive buffet the first night, he didn’t feel like doing it. I had to argue my way into getting laid by my boyfriend on an island in a bad ass bilevel suite. It shouldn’t be so hard. I met HIM at a bar. His friend came up to me and said  “my friend thinks you’re hot”  Done. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

I’m not the kind of girl who sits around plotting and planning on how I’m gonna get myself a man. It’s worked for me so far. I haven’t gone a year without at least kissing a male specimen since I was about 15. That’s a decade ago. Wink wink.

Thanks for listening!

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

www.kendracunningham.com

www.blondelogicblog.com

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