Beauty and The Beast:

Fan Mail Question of The Week:

One of my friends has a crush on a mutual friend .  I think they’d make a good couple Should I drop some hints? Spill the beans? Get involved? Or just let the chips fall where they may?

Thanks!

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

This is a tough one. They are both your friends and who doesn’t want to see friends find love. The problem is you never know how their relationship will handle the new level of information and, if it goes there, the addition of sex. We has humans tend to think “ this is perfect two likable people who are interested in each other. This is a, “no brainer” the caper is everybody has relationship issues. EVERYBODY. Will their idiosyncrasies mesh? It’s like an issues jigsaw puzzle and nobody knows if all the pieces really fit but you started the damn puzzle and you got some of it and you think you can see what it will look like when it’s done but it’s kinda too time consuming and sometimes you pretend like your still into it but in your head you know you’ve tried to fit that three bubbled bit with two straight edges into a corner slot 7 times already and it doesn’t fit but to stay in the game you pretend that’s the piece you’re working on. The point is you may be sending them on a candlelit cruise of exploration or you may be shoving them into a hot lava pit of romantic incompatibility.

That being said, I am a girl, physiologically and somewhat emotionally, so I would have to meddle. Just a bit. As a girl asking questions like “ would you ever be into Joey?” is commonplace. Now if a dude goes and asks those types of questions I’m sure the conversation is a bit more lewd and definitely short lived. Guys are not great information gatherers when it comes to one on one interaction. Have you noticed?  There is nothing worse than finally getting some one on one time with a guy you like and you’re navigating the conversation with questions. I have blown a gasket more than once with a revealing question like “ Don’t you have any questions for me?” and then they look at me like  “You are seriously keeping track of who asks who how many questions?” and I look back like “F’ing A I am.” And the rest of the night is spent with few words but a lot of faces being made.

So yes, as a girl I would driven to gently explore the topic.

And hope that the faces I make don’t give it away.

Or my hand gestures.

Thanks for listening.

Kisses

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.
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The Beast: John Powers

Never get involved.

If your friend has a crush on your friend… let them work it out.  Getting involved means you will be thanked profusely if it works out (which is good), or ridiculed relentlessly if it fails (which is bad).  The best thing to do is allow them the possibility of being in the same place at the same time and let whatever happens… happen.

There was a time that one of my dudes had a thing for one of my chicks.  It was fun at first, we would go to karaoke together, or hang out with a big group… but then it got really weird.  I’m not sure what happened once they were alone together, but I’m gonna assume that he kissed her really sloppy and licked her face like a dog.

Why would I want that to happen again?

They might seem perfect.  Maybe he likes her.  It’s possible he’s her type.  You’ve seen her fall for guys like him in the past (but somehow it never worked out)… maybe this is special?  It’s not.  They’re just two people who are both looking for something.  It’s possible they’ll find it in each other… it’s also possible neither of them will come to karaoke next time.

It’s enough trouble to get together with the person that you have a crush on… work on that.  Let your friends figure their own situations out.  Be a good friend… be supportive… but don’t make it your issue.  Next thing you know they’ll be making 3-way calls and you’ll have to patch them through to each other.  There are better things to do with your time.

… learn how to play chess, it’s coming back.

Any questions?  E-Male:

Fan Mail Question of The Week:

Dear Kendra & John,

I really like this girl, but she lives several hours away from me.  How far away is too far to travel to see someone you want to be in a relationship with?

- Gas is Expensive

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

The Beast:  John Powers

Long-distance relationships are tough.

Beauty and The Beast:

Fan Mail Question of The Week:

Hi Kendra and John,

For a relationship to work, do you think the guy has to be just a little more into the girl than she is in to him?  I’m dating a guy who’s really into me, which is a bit annoying.

XO,
Lo

The Beast: John Powers

F*** Raymond…
Everyone loves Powers.

What you’re talking about is control, upper-hand, and the eternal tug-of-war that each relationship must deal with. It doesn’t matter which partner likes the other more… in a good relationship you are both willing to sacrifice and compromise for the sake of your person’s happiness. You should try to contribute whatever you can to the success of the “us”… much like communism.

Balance is crucial. If your person likes you more than you like them, you will look at them as inferior, whether you mean to or not. If you’re more into them, then you’ll be the one looked down upon and taken for granted. At it’s equilibrium point you will both care for each other the same amount and bask in the warmth of nest you’ve created.

Recently I really hit it off with a lady… It felt great, but I messed up – I told her how much I like her. Wrong! Keep your distance, man. Play it cool. You don’t need her. She needs you. Whew. That was close. Almost had an honest and open relationship. You can communicate how you feel… just not too soon. Wait till you’re sure that they are addicted. (Co-’Stanza!)

That’s the game, ladies and gentlemen. Hold your cards close to your chest and work on your poke-poke-po-ker-face.  Play it cool, but know when it’s time to open up.  Realize when you have something good in front of you… and don’t take each other for granted.  Build intimacy and try to find your balance.  Cultivate a bond where you rely on each other slowly, and compensate for each others’ shortcomings.

… if that doesn’t work, get a cat.

John Powers is a 29-year-old, heterosexual male. He does graphics for TV by day, and standup comedy by night. He enjoys playing and listening to rock music, driving around with the top down on his convertible, walking aimlessly around Manhattan… and sipping on deep red wine near the beach…

 Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

It depends on what you mean by making the relationship “work”. I’ve been in several relationships where I was more into the guy and it “lasted” . Does longevity mean the relationship works? Kinda.

At any point in time, there is usually one person in the relationship who is dissatisfied on some level. I don’t know anybody who says “Oh my relationship is perfect. The amount of love and effort from both people is well balanced and we truly feel love and lust every time we lay eyes on each other” Even compulsive liars won’t try it.

It’s interesting that the guy is too into you and it’s annoying you. What is he doing? Maybe he’s annoying and he’s too into you. Two separate things. The last time a guy was too into me, it made me realize I didn’t want the same things he wanted. I spend a lot of time saying “I want a boyfriend” but what I really want is a friend who I think is sexy to have sex with me when I want to.  Why can’t that be my version of Boyfriend? This guy that was too into me, let’s call him Anomaly because that’s what he was, he wanted the traditional boyfriend/girlfriend situation where I – the girl- was supposed to be a good listener, a nurturer, and the relationship manager. But I wanted to have fun. I didn’t want to be in charge of things like “where is this going?” “you need to get your cousin a wedding gift”  or “I want to talk about your feelings” type of things. I wanted to focus on new pizza places, when and where we would make out again, and creating fake obligations so I didn’t get roped into being a guest at a strangers wedding in East Bum Fuck USA.

My point is he was too into me, but the way he was too into me allowed me to see we didn’t want the same type of set up and his views of women were pretty antiquated. He was cute though, I’ll give him that much and reliable.

Anyway I want to know what this guy is doing.

Saying goofy things? Those are usually the best stories.

Spill the beans!

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

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Fan Mail Question of The Week:

Kendra and John,

I recently met someone and we hit it off. We exchanged numbers, should you wait for a text or just f’in call them?!”

Thanks!

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

Text or call

Call. I’m sick of texting. It’s like passing a note in class, sure it’s exciting and you get the feeling someone likes you but there is a chance someone else wrote that for him. Plus I like voices. I want to know if the dude who is texting me has a good voice. There’s nothing worse than seeing an attractive guy, then you talk to him and he sounds like a 13 year old girl. I call it the Tom Brady syndrome.

Or at least mix it up texting and phone calls. Texting is really for witty one liners or location updates,  if you want to have an interactive exchange, pick up the phone.

I’m totally guilty of relying on text to communicate but that’s because I deal with the public in both of my jobs, stand up comedy and bartending. On any given day I might deal with over a hundred people in 8 hours. Face to face. That’s a lot of communicating. So yeah, I get lazy but I love when people pick up the phone and call me. I typically don’t answer but that’s because I’m too tired to hold the phone and I’m too vain to put on a goofy blue tooth.

Anyway, I went out on one official date in 2011, and it was ten days before the end of the year, the reason I went is because the guy called me up and asked me out. That is the only reason I went. I didn’t want to go on a date with him. That’s my problem, I don’t like to go on dates with people I barely know, and that’s technically what dating is, I think.  Anywho, I agreed to go to dinner with this man because he had the common courtesy to call me. Now of course, he ended up resorting to text to ask me out on our second date and guess what? I said no. Well I lied and said I was busy until after the New Year which wasn’t 100% true but that’s the other thing about texting, it’s so easy to lie!

Thanks for listening!

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

www.kendracunningham.com

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The BEAST: John Powers

Beauty and The Beast:

Fan Mail Question of The Week:

I was so close to submitting this to the site a few times, but I chickened out.

I love Kendra and John’s blog. It’s relationship advice for singles by singles that always brings a smile to my face. But I’m considering giving up my single status and was hoping I could get your take on my situation. I’ve met someone who is pretty much perfect for me, but they’re straightedge. I like to party and always thought my significant other would too. I’m not being pressured to change my lifestyle but I am being pressured to make a commitment. What do you think I should do? How do you know when it’s time to get serious with someone? Do you ever really know?

The Beast: John Powers

There seem to be two different things going on here.

I’ll answer your first question first.  Stop doing drugs.  Your person being straight-edge is not a problem… your partying might be.  There’s a time and a place for that lifestyle.  Mostly from the time you’re 18-27 years old.  College… till… you grow up.  Get a “real job” and have to “pay bills.”  How old are you?

I’m almost 30, and it was only a year or two ago that I decided I didn’t need to party too hard anymore.  I still enjoy a bit of enhanced excitement occasionally, but not every night and certainly not every day.   (…the reason why one member of “Kiss” was kicked out of the band: Find out here at 3:44)  There will come a time when getting wrecked isn’t the main goal of your weekend… and whenever that happens, you’ll wish you didn’t let your party lifestyle get in the way of something with potential.

Your second question has to do with pressure and commitments.  My humble opinion is you cannot let someone rush you.  When you’re ready you’ll know… at least that’s what people keep telling me.  I have yet to commit to a serious life-long monogamous relationship, but I think there’s a siren that goes off, or some ticker-tape parade-type-shit that happens at the moment you realize it’s the real thing.

Don’t get serious with someone you’re not serious about just because you’re tired of random encounters.  The grass is greener and you could end up in a terrible relationship dreaming of a random!  It’s better to be with no one than the wrong one… and don’t forget: Randoms can be fun!  There’s nothing more exciting than finding someone you’re attracted to, who is also attracted to you… and then making out in the back of the bar all night.

There must be a reason you are not looking to commit.  Perhaps it just doesn’t feel right.  That’s reason enough.  To quote Green Day, “You can’t go forcing something if it’s just not right.”  Perhaps you still want to sow your oats.  There is a reason for your reluctance, and that’s something you shouldn’t ignore.  Get your head straight.  If it turns out she’s the one… hopefully she’ll still be ready when you are.  If not… maybe she never was.  Unless you are enthusiastic there is no reason to commit to something that doesn’t feel extraordinary.

Commitments are tough.  My friend Ryan wanted me to make a commitment to finish a creative project I started.  It’s not an easy thing to do, but I love it… so I agreed to make it happen.  I’ve got a lot of respect for my friend for making me realize it’s a commitment I needed to make… and it’s coming along well.
… but sometimes he can be a real jerk.  {;^)>

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DontEverSettle@JohnJPowers.com

- John

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Fan Mail Question of The Week:

John and Kendra,

Thanks for your advice a few weeks ago.  Me and my man are still going …but I have a new issue.

My BF is a DJ, and when we first started dating, he invited me to go to his gigs with him.  It was a way for us to hang out, since he’s usually working on weekends.  But recently he’s been complaining that I am “cutting in on his action” apparently he gets more people talking to him and referrals when I am not there.  You would think I was hanging all over him.  I’m not.  Should I be insulted?  Because I am.

Thanks!

J

The Beast: John Powers

Any questions?  E-Male:

TakenYetAvailable@JohnJPowers.com

- John

@ComicJohnPowers

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John Powers is a 29-year-old, heterosexual, single male. He does graphics for TV by day, and standup comedy by night. He enjoys playing and listening to rock music, driving around with the top down on his convertible, walking aimlessly around Manhattan… and sipping on deep red wine near the beach…

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

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Fan Mail Question of The Week:

John and Kendra,

If you found out your boyfriend or girlfriend used to swing, what would you do?

Thanks for your advice,

Concerned Monogamist

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

If a guy I was involved with told me he used to be a swinger, I couldn’t deal with it. My opinion on swinging is that it’s fucked up, weird, and quite frankly, the thought of it freaks me out, man. I don’t understand how people can participate in a swinger’s lifestyle. I like to have an understanding of the man I’m involved with. My first boyfriend was a break dancer, he was the leader of his “crew”. He liked to break dance, work out and go shopping for records and clothes. Sometimes I think I understood him the most out of all the guys I’ve been involved with. And he was hot. Ah to be 12 years old again. My next boyfriend was a stoner. A sexy stoner who drove a Camaro and just liked to hang out and socialize, stoned. I get that. I won’t run through the whole line up but for the most part I “got” what the dude was about but going to parties to watch the person you care about have sex with other people while you, too, engage in sexual activities with strangers, understand I do not. Never mind the fact, a lot of these swingers are not exactly intellectual headturners. So you end up doing it with Wendy’s cashiers and sanitation workers. Have a good weekend!

So if a guy was to say to me “Hey Kendra, I gotta tell you something. Me and my last girlfriend used to go to group sex parties and watch each other do nasty things with ugly people but now I like to just have a couple of drinks with you and, when you’re in the mood, have some good one on one sex, just you and me.” I’d be like “excuse me while I go boil the first layer of epidermis off my labias”.

Never mind the dirty boy aspect to it, I like to think I’m the best sex my guy ever had. Knowing that he participated in stuff like that would make me feel like a sexual dork.

It just wouldn’t work. Don’t get me wrong I would appreciate his honesty, I might even remain friends, I like weirdo’s as friends,  but not lovers. Using the word “lovers” just made me laugh. I wish I could take a lover. I can’t participate in purely carnal relationships. I try to make it more, even if it isn’t. I can take what should have been left as a one night stand into two years of false hopes and misinterpreted progress.

That’s just me.

Working my magical relationship wand on dead end engagements.

At least I can say I tried.

And I didn’t swing.

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

www.kendracunningham.com

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The Beast: John Powers

Not sure if you can ever “used to be” a swinger.
It’s either something you’re open to… or not.

Perhaps your lover felt like swinging in a past relationship because they were not completely sexually satisfied with their previous partner. Suddenly, with you, all their needs are met and they’re willing to be a one-horse carousel again. That’s great… and there’s no reason to end it.

If your person confesses this because they miss that lifestyle and yearn for multiple partners… you may have to cut it off. Unless you’re into it… if it would turn you on to watch someone else please your person, it’s worth exploring. Either way, it’s best to be straightforward about how you feel, and if this is a deal-breaker… end it.

It’s always tough discussing exes and numbers when getting to know someone in a new relationship. One of my previous lovers had a rule that it was an subject not to be discussed. There’s something cool about leaving the past behind you, but I think it just made me more curious. What was she trying to hide?!

If I was with a chick who was into swinging… I might give it a shot, but only if it’s the right situation. Much like a penguin (… I compare myself to an animal as often as possible) I believe in a monogamous life partner. It would be fun to swap with another couple if it’s not a serious relationship… but if it is a committed one, I wouldn’t want to share. Mine. Go ‘way.

The bond between you and your lover is a beautiful thing, and letting someone else in on it can completely change your relationship. Carefully consider the consequences of this before heading to Club Amantes in Brooklyn.

… anyone need a single male?

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- John

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Fan Mail Question of The Week:

John and Kendra,

I read your column every week and finally got the courage to write in. I’ve been seeing my lady for some time now. Things started off like gangbusters, we were all over each other. And as you can probably tell by my email address, I have a pretty sweet pad.  So, I’m always sure to set the mood with music and candles, etc! Anyway, things seemed to have simmered down in our sex life. What should I do? I don’t want to count down the days until Christmas, like a little kid, because that might be the next time we are intimate? It seems to only be special occasions now!

Think it might be over or can I bring that spice in my relationship?

I look forward to hearing back from you guys. Let me know when you guys can answer this.

Dan

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Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

Dan Dan the Ladies Man having a little dry spell are ya? My first question is, have you talked to her about it? Change in sex pattern can be associated with so many different things. Maybe she is feeling fat, boring, and lazy. Or maybe she’s feeling like YOU’RE fat, boring and lazy. She could be mad at you for something you said in passing three weeks ago or she might just not be a very sexual person after all. We all know we try to be what other people want us to be in the beginning stages of relationships but nobody can keep up that people pleasing façade forever. Once the dust settles, true colors come shining through. So yeah, she liked doing it as much as you, but that was when she was developing the bond, the emotional dependence, but now it may not be so important. Who knows.

The only way to find out is to talk about it.  One time I had a three week dry spell with my ex boyfriend, I was the one who had to bring it up. We had Mexican food delivered and I could see how the night was going. He was gorging on nachos and Mexican pizzas and sucking down beers. It would be an hour before he was passed out on the couch. So I said something. It ended up he was stressed about work, felt unmotivated, fat and like his life was going nowhere. Here’s the clincher, once he told me all that, he then felt like he could talk freely, whenever he felt like it. So yeah, I found out why I wasn’t getting any action but I opened the door to bear witness to his whiney, not solution oriented rants. And guess what? Then I didn’t feel like doing it with HIM.

A good honest conversation can be a real eye opener. That’s why so many people avoid having them. What percentage of relationships do you think are built on flimsy ideas of each other?

Putting my cynicism aside, there are wonderful people in the world who are capable of experiencing a hard time, recognizing it, taking action and coming out of it.  Having a frank conversation with your chiquita will only let you get to know her better, and that’s  what it’s all about, breaking down the walls to see who you’re really involved with, what they’re capable of, and their ability to love.

Sometimes it takes years.

That’s a lot of dry spells.

Keep us posted!

Thanks for listening!

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

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The Beast: John Powers

Dan,

What happened in between?
There must have been something that changed.  Perhaps you talk about your “sweet pad” too often, and she got tired of the music and candles…  Did you get along outside the bedroom?  Do you still?  There must be more to the story…

It can happen (occasionally) that sex gets dull.  You have been with the same person for a long time (3 months or so) and start to crave attention from another lover.  Do not distress.  If you are (stuck) in a committed relationship (do you know why they call it committed?!) there are still things you can do to make things more interesting, or keep things fresh.

Set a night aside to spoil her.  Give her a massage… a manicure… perhaps a facial.  Remind her that there are two people in the relationship and it’s important for both of you to be satisfied.  Show her that you are willing to put everything aside for her happiness (if just for one night).

Try bringing another lover into the mix.  Many people thrive on the swinger lifestyle and rely on the pleasure of others to keep their own stimuli active and evolving.  Take your lady to a swanky club and let her hit on someone that you could bring back home with you.  You may have so much fun in the process that your sex life could revitalize itself.

Many people like to role-play.  Get into character and feel like you’re with someone else (even though you’re not).  She might be more attracted to your alter-ego, or the pizza delivery guy.  Make it happen.  Try adding some toys (legos… pogs…).  Sometimes all it takes is a bit of extra stimulation to get your lady’s attention.

It is my duty, however, to inform you that a lack of desire is sometimes an indication of diminishing interest.  If she isn’t interested in physical contact with you there is a chance she is no longer attracted to you, or even worse… doesn’t see you as a good fit for her future.  Find out if there is still a connection.  Do something you both enjoy and gauge her reaction.  Go out of your way to be sexy and try all the methods of pleasing her that you know.  Hopefully she will respond.

… if none of this works, move on.

Any questions?  E-Male:
AddJohnToYourLoveLife@JohnJPowers.com

- John

@ComicJohnPowers
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John Powers is a 29-year-old, heterosexual, single male. He does graphics for TV by day, and standup comedy by night. He enjoys playing and listening to rock music, driving around with the top down on his convertible, walking aimlessly around Manhattan… and sipping on deep red wine near the beach…

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Fan Mail Question of The Week: I haven’t gotten laid in a while.  Should I hook up for the sake of it?

The Beast: John Powers

Yes.
That is all.
This will be a very short blog.

Go for it.  Women can tell when you haven’t gotten laid in a while.  They can smell it.  You’re trying too hard… buying her too many drinks… coming on too strong… laughing halfheartedly.  Loosen up.  Be yourself.  Go get some tail and come back to the club the following night.

There’s a scent on most men (… and I don’t mean the juiceheads that spray too much cologne).  It’s a palpable fragrance of our confidence and machismo.  Pheromones.  Our natural scent is the most alluring thing about us in the wild.  Fancy cars and iPads help, but the smell of a man will make or break his game.  If you have been intimate with a woman recently, the lady you are courting will notice.  She will smell it on you… and just like animals in the wild, she will want to cover the smell of this inferior mate with her own.  (…or maybe women just like the smell of vaginas…)

When you’re getting steady sex, you’re not looking for anything.  You’re out and about, but with no ulterior motives.  This makes the game completely one-sided.  You can talk to women without trying to touch their boobies.  Game over.  The only reason most dudes talk to chicks is to get some sex.  You’ve already got it… You’re completely unintimating.  Women like that.  They’re attracted to the guy that doesn’t hit on them.  I have no idea why, but it’s true.  If you’re already winning the game, you can walk into any ballpark and feel like you’ve already got a few insurance runs on the board.  That comes in handy.

… just bear in mind: While you’re at home banging Mrs. Wrong (…make sure Mr. Wrong doesn’t find out… he’s an asshole, that’s why she’s cheating on him!) … Miss Right could be at your usual karaoke spot wondering why you’re not.  It feels great to keep your bat in the game… but don’t get lost in the grass and forget that there’s another (more important) game tomorrow.

If you don’t want a random, but really need to ditch some glaze frosting… just get a Fleshlight!

Any questions?  E-Male:
EmptyBallsSatisfiedMan@JohnJPowers.com

- John

@ComicJohnPowers
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John Powers is a 29-year-old, heterosexual, single male. He does graphics for TV by day, and standup comedy by night. He enjoys playing and listening to rock music, driving around with the top down on his convertible, walking aimlessly around Manhattan… and sipping on deep red wine near the beach…

Beauty: Kendra Cunningham

So you’re feeling the physical tension of no loving? You want to have sex with someone to feel connected or feel disconnected from yourself? If you are the type of person who can have sex with someone without any attachment or emotional residue, go get ‘em. Believe me, if I could use sex as a solution for stress relief and walk away unaffected, I’m pretty sure I’d be living a completely stress free life, if you catch my drift. Unfortunately for me, and the male population, I can’t have sex with someone just to break a dry spell. I might use the dry spell as an excuse to aggressively pursue someone I like but it would be the beginning of something, whether he liked it or not. I can turn what most people would consider a one night stand into years of something “complicated”.

The face that you’re asking for approval makes me think you have reservations about having sex simply for the physical enjoyment. That’s something you have to take into consideration. If you take a shot in the dark with a new lover, you might end up with some uninspired sex. If you think you feel bad in a dry spell, how bad do you think you’ll feel telling some uncommunicative droll with Devil – like tattoos to “Stop! Just Stop!”  while dramatically pushing him( or her)  off the bed?  Worse. You’ll feel worse. You know you will.

Personally I’d ride the dry spell out. Dry spells serve a purpose. They give us time to develop independently, get to know ourselves better. It’s hard to maintain independence in a relationship, especially if you’re codependent like me ( and millions of other American citizens). Use the energy you want to put towards getting laid, towards something else. Some sort of personal development project. Audio books for learning a new language are always fun.

Plus it’s something you can do and beat off at the same time.

Wahlah

Sexual tension gone.

No tienes una problema.

Estas bien.

Y hablas  un pequito espanol.

Muy Bien mi amigo

Kisses-

Kendra

Kendra is a stand up comic living in Brooklyn where she owns a super comfortable bed. She spends most of her time wondering where the hell her sugar daddy is and hoping he didn’t settle.

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